Wednesday, 22 September 2010

Sometimes lessons are difficult


A mixed bag on 21st September:
  • It is nice to have a quiet day amidst the craziness of work, meetings, open evenings etc - though I would still rather have spent time with my friend if it had been possible!
  • It's fun to plan little surprises for people :-)
  • Some parents are prepared to drive and park dangerously just to get that little bit closer to the school gate
  • Sometimes meetings are ridiculous!! I know we have to do and say certain things so that they can be minuted and documented properly, but good grief...
  • This is it. This is the school we want. The Boy loves it and we both feel really good about it. This simplifies things in one way, but also puts the pressure on in another
  • Sometimes when a friend is hurting there's very little you can do. You want to sort things out for them. You want to just take away that pain. It's horrible feeling so helpless. Yes, you can be there for them, for that doesn't feel like very much sometimes
  • Pray. God can help when no-one else can

14 comments:

Deb said...

I know what you mean about the helpless feeling when a friend is going through a rough time. I have a good friend who is having a terrible time with her marriage and it just breaks my heart. All I can do is listen when she feels like talking - that's it. Perhaps knowing how much we care will help them through, huh? xo

Anesha said...

Sounds like you have so much going on. Take time to rest and renew. Hugs Anesha

Rhona said...

Glad you've found the school you like and hope it all works out.
Also hope that your friend's hurt heals a bit soon - just being there for her/him is what counts at the moment - and keeping them in your prayers. xx

debs14 said...

Sometimes when you are hurting so much you don't think you can cope, the best gift someone can give is the knowledge that they are there to listen and share your pain. I am sure your friend is so grateful for your support at the moment. Hopefully it won't be too much longer before things feel a little easier to bear.
Fingers crossed for the school, it's going to be a horrible few months waiting for the verdict!

Made your yoghurt cake this morning - oh wow!!! So easy to make and yet so tasty.

Scrappi Sandi said...

So glad you've resolved the school choice issue...keeping everything crossed for a succesful application!!

Just be there for your friend...it may sound 'not much' but that reliability will mean so much to a friend in need.

Well done on winning the sweet at your training meeting!! I bet they don't give those away too easily!!!

Linda said...

I can so relate with what you're going through. I have/am going through this same situation and it's been going on for over a couple years. What makes it even more painful is that it's my grown kidlets that are the ones that I am trying to comfort and support in the trials they're going through.

God bless you and your friend. Give your friend my love, as well, even though I don't know your friend I can empathize.

scrappyjacky said...

Glad you've found a school you all like....such an important decision....hope you're successful.
And I think just 'being there' for your friend is the most important thing.

Maria Ontiveros said...

Hugs to you. Glad you have your faith to help carry you through!
Rinda

Cheri said...

And sometimes just being there may be all your friend needs/wants. Hang in there!

Amy said...

Mel, your friend is lucky to have you, I am sure she appreciates your support.

It's great news that you have found a school that suits you all and The Boy likes the look of - good luck with all of the form filling!

Our school has extremely limited parking so I understand exactly what you are talking about - there are some crazy drivers out there!

ComfyMom~Stacey said...

Glad The Boy was able to find a school he likes. I hope things get better for your friend!

The Creative Beast said...

Yes, that last lesson on feeling helpless is a hard one to learn but taking away someone else's pain prevents them from learning and growing from it and prevents you from learning how to simply be with the pain of your loved ones, difficult though it is to witness =-(

Karen said...

The last lesson is so true. So many things are out of our control and though we'd like to make it better, we cannot. One of the hardest lessons to learn and accept. Being there IS all we can do.

Clair said...

I'm pretty certain that your friend appreciates just knowing that you're there if you're needed x