Saturday, 14 November 2009

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for your comment on this post.



I'm sure you didn't mean to cause offence or upset, but it is a pity that if you feel you have a valid point to make you won't put your name to it. I wondered about whether to even respond - I was tempted to just delete your comment and forget about it, and because it was anonymous I would have felt justified in doing so. I feel that there are nicer ways to make such a point. You could email me via my profile page. You could say 'Nice layout - I just wondered if you should have added Rita Rudner's name...' etc. Just putting your name to the comment would have helped.

However, I shall assume that you meant your comment nicely and constructively. And I shall answer it because I choose to, and to consider the validity of it for my own benefit.

I planned this layout in a post here. In that post I very clearly explained that it was a Rita Rudner quotation, and even where I had come across it.

I shared the completed layout here. I wanted to keep that post as short as possible so didn't include the source of the quotation, though I did link to the planning post so people could still find the details easily.

And then I talked about the construction of the layout here. (This is where you left your comment.) I again clearly stated that the title was a Rita Rudner quotation. At this point I also changed the link on the previous post to now link to the construction details, but that still of course allowed people to easily find out the details of the quotation.

So I assume that your comment is asking me to reflect whether I should have included Rita Rudner's name on the layout itself. I did consider it. If the words had fit better, perhaps I would have done. But as these layouts are basically for me and my family, does it really matter? If I intended it for sale, publication or a gift, that might be different. I've shared it on my blog, yes, but when I have I've either stated the origin of the quotation or linked to where that information is stated. Personally, I think that's enough. Perhaps other crafters would disagree. But that's my opinion. And to be honest, I don't see why I should have to justify it to someone who hasn't even put a name to their comment.

Thank you for making me feel bad. I sure hope you did so unintentionally.

31 comments:

scrappyjacky said...

I don't think you need it on your page at all....after all,as you say,the page is for you and your family.So long as you attribute on your blog- which you have done.But,of course, you can never please everyone....but I wouldn't feel bad about displeasing someone who doesn't even have the courtesy to leave a name.

Ruth said...

I think you did all you could so you have no need to worry/be upset about that comment. Me? I'd have blown a raspberry and deleted the post, as no identifying name was left.

Cheri said...

There are some people in the world that build themselves up by tearing other people down; that judge without knowing all the facts; that hide behind the cloak of anonymity. They aren't worth the effort of getting upset over. You identified your source. Let it go. Believe that you are a beautiful person and don't need to apologize or explain yourself to anonymous who apparently has no life at all if (s)he has nothing better to do than leave accusatory comments on the blogs of others.

Kat said...

I know what you mean, Mel - I had a nasty comment from someone, totally out of the blue with no realy link to anything and I was wondering why that person was reading my blog anyway. :o

Was dithering about deleting the comment but then made a post afterwards.

You have given credit to the quote previously, and you really don't need to do that on a LO that is for you and your family only. :o

Sometimes really wonder what people are out there on the Internet!!

humel said...

Thanks so much, nice commenters :-)

I just wanted to add here that, with the help of Blog counter, I found out the person who left that comment found my blog via a Google search for "Rita Rudner". I was already putting it in perspective and feeling better about it, but that helped even more - the poor soul probably isn't even a scrapbooker! They need to start immediately :-)

Thanks again for your lovely comments, and I wanted to tell you that I do feel better now x

glitterbygrammie said...

I wouldn't of bothered with it. If you can't leave a name you don't get diddly squat. I was being nice I was thinking something alot worse.
I love reading your blog.

RachelB said...

I totally agree with everyone, you don't need to put the name on a personal layout. I can't believe people can be so rude, they could of emailed you like you said.

Jane said...

Some people need a life ;)

When I think of all the scrapbook pages people do and all the quotes they use as titles etc I really don't think putting the name behind the quote is always an option or necessary. I certainly don't always.

You're right - the page is for you and your family - it's a scrapbook layout - it's not supposed to be an education on quotes and their authors....

jmho

Vic said...

How increadibly odd!

You did all you could do with regards to crediting the author of the quote/comment, I am sure... some people... well... they just don't have anythinng better to do!!

rockchickhelen said...

Here, here. Well said. :)

Amy said...

Personally, I think it is a bit of a load of rubbish ... I mean you went out of your way to talk about the connection and the page is your own personal reflection. Some people have no clue.
I say keep going exactly the way you are - you come to things with a clear head and a clear heart. If a reasonable person had stumbled over your blog from another search they would have quickly realised perhaps they were in the wrong place.

Jessica Griffin said...

This is the "mom" (protective one mind you) in me coming out. First of all... Obviously if this persons intentions were to be nice, they would have left their name. I don't understand where they get off telling YOU how or WHAT you should do with YOUR scrapbooking. People like that do not deserve a second thought. So don't waste your time. Infact, I would not allow people who choose to post anonymously on your blog. (You can change that in blogger functions.) Sounds like anonymous doesn't have anything better to do. Unlike you and I! ;)

bubbachenille said...

That's a "here here" from me too !

Sarah said...

I just want to add a here here to everyone else too. You did more than enough to identify the source of the quote, and you should just put the matter to bed, your creations are awesome, and one crap comment from someone too cowardly to identify themselves shouldnt make you feel bad for one second!

Kaz said...

Ignore that person. Not worth it. Hugs x

Kathy M said...

People can be asses in the anonymity of the web. Just ignore it and don't let it get you down.

Sophie said...

People are such asses! I'm sorry that happened to you.

Carrie/scrapchick said...

Oh brother. I think you did everything right!

Cathy (Tinniegirl) said...

People! Is there anything more that I can say? I don't think so. Hope they've come back to read your post and all these comments.

Micky - Handmade Expo said...

WTF... some people honestly - they can't be serious. I see that "Anonymous" hasn't been back on to find out what is happening... at least when this person does they will see how much support you have!!!!

Heather said...

Mel - I think we now know the meaning of 'birds of a feather stick together'!! Lol
Us birds got our feathers ruffled bigtime when we read THAT post. You can play in my tree anytime & we'll all tell those nasty crows where to go.

Abi said...

I think you did the right thing. As other commenters have said, some people just like picking holes. Your work is beautiful and you should be proud of it. They are a coward for not leaving their name. Keep going!

Irene said...

I had one post,(which was nothing to do with scrapbooking) that criticised one of my posts. It was the owner of a shop whose link I'd used out of courtesy who said that item wasn't in HER shop! So I replied that it wasn't, it was MINE and belonged to me! I deleted her comment! People can be so petty! Keep up the good work Mel!!!! X

MarleneMAZ said...

You absolutely did nothing wrong. In fact you could not have done any more.
I love your layout by the way.

Kim said...

people who don't leave their names are rude, imho

nancy said...

This kind of comment would really bother me, too... I know how you feel. As others have said, some people just want to tear others down for entertainment. It's a lovely layout and you are brave to address this topic openly. xo!

Relly said...

Ah, the downside of Anonymous comments. Anonymous gets around and he/she doesn't often have much nice to say.

Shrug and move on, my friend.

debs14 said...

I think that Ruth had been given quite enough mentions from you in previous posts, she didn't need to have her name given again.
Please don't let this upset you, let's try and convince ourselves that 'Anonymous' was only trying to be helpful.
Your blog is so funny and interesting, don't let one bad comment upset you.

Gez said...

awe, Humel just catching up with your blogging. Sending you great BIG cyber ((hugs)). Keep up the good work & definately blow raspberries.XX

sharyncarlson said...

I've been away from the computer for a few days, so I'm sorry to be responding late, but I had to jump in and support you. I would have been upset too and you were 100% justified. Love your comment about that person needing to pick up scrapbooking.

Anthea Goodman said...

Well, I think the LO is gorgeous; the quote is funny and you have explained yourself quite adequately! You've referenced who the quote comes from in at least 3 places so the only thing I think of is.... that anonymous is a complete jerk and should go take a flying leap!!

PS. I have disabled anonymous comments. If someone doesnt have the courage to put their name to the post then I really don't want their comments at all!